If you feel going dark is working, then do more of what's working. Try to act as if next time you speak to H (since you got a positive response), even if you're not good at it. If you keep doing it, it becomes more natural. If H is in the Depression stage, he may be there for a while - don't expect the next stage too soon and set yourself up for disappointment. They sometimes peek out of the tunnel but run right back in. It was a positive talk nonetheless.
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"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
