Sandi is/was a 60+ year old woman, held a job at the Church, a grandmother, who had been in an affectionless mariage for 40 yrs. She was surviving, but then stumbled into an EA and got so freaked out by it that she sought help here. She thougt she might be having a late MLC, but she wanted to repair her marriage, and was working hard every single day to stay on course, as her H was disengaged.
Her last post was about finding websites that sold DBing books at low cost for people who couldn't afford new ones. She also provided a link to a man's newletter so a man can read what a woman might want in a relationship. She did this from her heart...I am certain of it. She wasn't into spamming and I doubt she knows what that is.
I saw her posting, and would have emailed her if her email was in her profile. I figured that she might have had a bit of a breakdown, or even that someone had hijacked her identity. I have read enough of her posts to know she wasn't being obnoxious on purpose. When I saw it in Cinder's thread about her dog, I just about wanted to cry for her! Hopefully that ban will be temporary, and short!
The more I read the more I'm thinking about leaving. It's a shame this site has been a lifesaver for me but just reading all of this tonight has put a nasty taste in my mouth. One of my complaints in my 'real' life is that I don't get listened to, now it seems it might happen here to. Good communication skills are what keeps the world a safe place. This site is quickly becoming not a safe place.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
The more I read the more I'm thinking about leaving. It's a shame this site has been a lifesaver for me but just reading all of this tonight has put a nasty taste in my mouth. One of my complaints in my 'real' life is that I don't get listened to, now it seems it might happen here to. Good communication skills are what keeps the world a safe place. This site is quickly becoming not a safe place.
I know what you mean, but I think I "feel" a change. I mean, this thread is still here! A week ago, it would have vanished. I'm hoping, perhaps foolishly, that things might actually get sorted at the start of the week. So, I am going to carry on as normal, except for trying to remember to post purple. I'm not going to censor myself, we'll see what happens!
I would like to know if MWD has been informed that her forum is in total chaos at the moment?
You would think if she did, she would drop in to try and straighten it out.
Something needs to be done because this dividing of the community can't go on forever. It's like we are in a civil war.
I almost feel like everyone involved (and I'll include me in that) could use a little time in the time-out chair! I'm planning to post normally (for me) for the reast of the weekend, and let this simmer, rather than boil over. I sort of hope that if she doesn't know about it now, MWD would find out Monday, and maybe there will be a bit of communication. OK, give me some more of the magic mushrooms!
I agree with you, ACJ. About the nasty taste and all the rest.
Only I can't leave like this because I will have to be banned before I walk away from what they're doing without calling "bullsh*t!" as one beloved poster used to say.
Might not change a thing...
But everyone will know where I stand on the way the moderators "run" these boards.
The boards are not here for us, you know. They are really just fancy advertising to sell Michele's books, tapes, etc...which are wonderful and a blessing to many... but the people that care, are the people who post to one another day in and day out through the fire. Not the ones that run the joint. And to the ones that run the joint, the people that care do not matter. And THAT, no matter which way they try to color it, spin it or dress it up, is bullsh*t and it is offensive to me. It's not about people at all. It is about the almighty dollar. And for something I have believed in so wholeheartedly for more than two years of my life to be reduced to that makes me want to either puke or fight. That's the redneck in me, I suppose. No one has to be behind me. Everyone can go back to posting to each other. I don't mind standing alone. Hell, I don't even remember how to quit.
