W and I had a good talk today while getting things in bags for Goodwill (on behalf of the cub scouts). She thinks the gift of the $50K plus SUV by OM is weird because she has not committed herself to him. She also feels bad for putting me through all this, but indicates she does not know what she wants yet. She even acknowleged what I had told her long ago about new relationships and passion - she said this thing with OM may burn itself. We agreed to continue to wait and see. I think I threw out a date like July and she thought that was acceptable.
One interesting thing she mentioned was that she had thought if she divorced me that she could be with OM until he died from old age (he is almost 68), and then if I was still unattached, possibly get remarried to me. I think she got this idea from her best friend. What a plan!