Tia, Thanks for noting my quote, however I think the point was missed. I assume that MWD and others that work with or for her know what they are doing when it comes to DB. But that doesn't help me. I came here because of all the people that were NOT experts. I wanted to know if this method could work for people like myself WHO ARE NOT EXPERTS. That made all the difference to me. To see people from all walks of life who have only one thing in common..the breaking up of their marriage.. come together and use DB and be helped inspired me.
In the process of doing that (coming together on a web site) something else happened. I made friends and found comfort in those friends. Although that is not the purpose of this site it is an unavoidable human reaction. Unfortunately, so is the opposite... finding people we do not like.
Having been in other web groups I have seen it time and again. As a result, people loss site of the goal and become caught up in personal disagreements. As a moderator you have a choice to either take sides or to moderate. By that I mean to make peace. Seems instead certain people were just tossed out.
I for one do not contest your right to do what you want on your site. That being said I do think it is a bit of throwing the baby out with the bath water. If their were posts (or posters)you felt were taking away from the main purpose of the site would it not have been better to log on and point out the posts that you felt were in conflict. We could have all learned from that. Getting on a saying you don't think this posts helps, or you don't think this is an appropriate topic here, would go a long way to showing us what you do think works.
Instead, what seems (from the outside) to be the case is some people didn't like some other people. Well it happens. That is personal and may not have anything to do with the DB ability of either. It looks as if the mods are taking sides.
I might also add that, if you have been separated, you know how lonely that is. Many who come here just need friends. Those friendships help make life possible in a very difficult time. To end those friendships for people by banning, at a time they are so important is just more insult to injury. Again your right, but is it really necessary? Could you not find a better way to address what ever issues you have with the banned posters..like talking to them? It might go a long way to restoring trust. And right now many here need trust.
