Finding my way out of the dark

[mishka422]

Any opinions on this?

My H is constantly telling me that if I need help with anything to just ask him. I struggle with that. It seems like he is trying to stay connected by saying this but then again, is he just trying to make me indebted to him? For example, today he picked up S13 and just a few minutes after he left he called me to ask if I had checked the fluids in the car. I told him I hadn't lately and the car needs an oil change but I haven't had the time or the money to take it in. He said he could take it for me on Wednesday if I want him to. I told him it was ok, I'd figure it out. Was that wrong? Should I let him do things for me when he offers? Is he just offering out of some sense of guilt? Is it bad DBing to let him do things for me? I don't want him to think I can't live without him and I'm just not sure how he would view doing these things for me.

I'm probably just overanylizing this aren't I? ARRGGHHH, I am so impatient and this is just going to kill me. I see him and I start crying immediately after he leaves. I can't stand feeling like this much longer. Strong and just fine one minute and depressed and self-pitying the next. This just plain stinks.