ANM, something I have noticed through my life is that many times, the people that are hurting you are hurting themselves and in a very weird way, they lash out because you are the closest to them. Have you ever noticed that people are more careful with those they know less?
I have noticed this as well. In fact, my xH (previous M) used to say to this to me.
My H just left with our dog.
He was here for a few hours. When he got here, I was in the middle of getting ready for my day. He asked where I was going. I told him nowhere. He wa spuzzled so I explained that my lunch appointment got postponed last minute. He offered to rub my back, which was a nice time. Afterwards, he offered to fix my sump pump outlet problem. We had fun working as a team fixing it and testing the fix. It was his brilliant idea.
After that, we got our dog ready to go. When done, I asked he wanted to go out to lunch. He turned me down at first. Then I said I was going out to get lunch anyway. He thought about it and then asked which place would be open for lunch. He then looked as if he was worried (perhaps about our interaction). I gave him a hug and said it'd be alright.
We finally decided where to go. Ww got there early so he suggested going to the food market. It was a great idea (and I told him so). It was fun at the market because we tried some food samples and he helped me in practical ways when I got my groceries.
When we got to the restaurant, they were still not open so we decided to go to the other alternative. It was a nice lunch together...
My H was sweet - he said he was looking forward to taking care of our dog. H: I thought you wouldn't trust me with her. Me: I didn't know you wanted to watch her. H: But she's your baby. Me: She's your baby too H: She's a sweet girl.
He kept wishing me a good trip. During the back rub, we chatted about many things, our cruise 5 years ago, etc. He told me (out of the blue) that his passport had expired and that he neededs to renew it soon because it takes months. I hope he's thinking of going on a cruise with me again.
