First of all, D17 has got a conditional acceptance letter from a very nice school (her first choice too)
Both of us got hyper and had a very proper pillow fight and ended up chasing our dog around the house laughing our heads off. Then the phone rang and D picked up, still laughing. Next thing I hear her saying is "hi Dad, Mom and I are having so much fun!"
They were talking for 15 minutes about her letter and then he asked for me (actually, it is not important, he always does). As I was already in a very good mood I chatted happily about the letter of acceptance and my work, and other things. No R talk.
Then I asked how he's doing. He said he is having a depression (is the Replay stage over? are we in the Depression stage?) but he didn't sound bitter, just sad and tired, and may be a little shy, as if he would like to open more but wasn't sure how I'd react. We spoke for half an hour, or so, and I started sensing that the usual awkward silence is on its way, didn't want to spoil the moment, so I said good bye lovingly and got a very warm respond. I am not really good at "acting as if", it was just a stroke of luck, one of those days when things go right, but I still think today I've done my bestDBing ever.
I wonder now if H is in Depression stage for real and I should prepare myself for the next stage - Withdrawal.
I am also thinking that going dark is working after all and I should continue.
Any thoughts?
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
