The only thing you would have heard from me is "I envy you!!"
Seriously, it seems that what fb2 posted on my thread a couple of days go, fits in your sitch as well.
He switched from the "I need to get out of here" mood to "I am not sure WTF I needed to get out from" or somethig similar. Check it out on my thread, I am no good at linking and staff. And that for me is a giant step, not a baby step. It's the seed that could turn to what you are really wishing for for your family. It's the first necessary step, apsolutely necessary and major to actually have a chance. No guarantee but pre requisite.