Sitting in a bar prep class because I apparently have no better way to spend a Saturday morning lol. But my friend brought Turkish coffee and we're gonna go out to lunch together. All my friends are taking the California Bar in July, but I'll be in summer school, so I have to wait til next February. However, I figure it can't hurt to get the subject outlines and put them in a reference binder, plus my friends are here and we can make just about anything fun.
Actually, even though I was up late, it was good to have some place to be this morning. It forced me to get out of bed fast instead of laying in bed thinking, and just grab a shower and go. I'm sure after lunch I'm gonna want a nap though lol.
You and the family having a good weekend?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yeah! S19, S18, and a friend sent out last night, ended up at a different friend's house. Got home at 5:30. W is a bit perturbed at them, with good reason, as she didn't get a lot of sleep! If they would tell her where and when, she wouldn't say no, but they go all wishy washy, and won't give a straight answer. That's the hard part! S19 is up, I guess his Marine trainig has been good for something! S18....not so much!
You are a pretty driven person, aren't you? Sitting in a bar prep class a year ahead of time! I hope your H sees the light, and realizes the person you are! Because I think that now you would put just as much into your marriage!
Lol. I kinda miss those days. I can't pull those kind of hours anymore w/o crashing later. We did a 3-day field exercise last year where I went about 28 hours w/o sleep and probably only 8 hours in the whole 3 days. It took me like 2 days to really feel normal again lol.
The Bar is a big enough deal that I'm only putting myself through it once - I'm gonna pass the dam thing the first time around! Plus I do have an OCD streak which I've channeled into school lol. It's funny though because I spend so much time around a bunch of even more driven type-A personalities that I feel lazy. So, to answer your question, I suppose I am driven, but I don't feel that way most of the time lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
But she finished giving the family room (we don't have what you would call a lounge, just a big room that serves for the formal and informal, works well for a family with four boys!) a good cleaning, and rearranging. So I complimented that. She did say thank you, so I guess it was a good one? Not a perfect one, but ok.
Sounds GOOD!!! Let's look at the glass half full! She said thank you!
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Last night we talked a bit about her job, and how her inexperience is driving her crazy. I think I managed to validate, and understand. So that was good. A long way from meaningful, but good.
This actually sounds kind of big to me. She's opening up to you about her sense of inadequacy? That's kind of deep. I wouldn't talk about that with just anyone I might be misinterpreting from afar, but it could be more meaningful than you think.
This might sound weird... but sometimes I try to DB with my Mom. We used to be super close, but now aren't. I'm trying to fix that. Last night I had a 39 minute long (!!) conversation with her talking about, seriously, WHATEVER. A lot of food talk. Recipe talk. Farmer's market talk. I think I used to believe that we needed to have "deep talk" to connect. But at the end of the talk she said, "I am happy to talk to you." Even though we weren't really "talking about anything meaningful."
Even though I am a WOMAN, sometimes I forget that for WOMEN, sometimes just talking period is really meaningful. And then it opens the way for true heart to heart deep disclosure that is so beautiful and awesome.
Jeff, it could happen to you! Keep your eye on the prize!!! Keep listening and validating!!!!!!!!!
(((((T))))) Hmmm, you made me think. She has always, or at least often, been prone to belittle herself, and her abilities. She always thinks she should have done better. So, it really wasn't new for her to express self doubt. But, I have to say, the whole tone of the conversation was a bit different. OK, we'll call it a baby scoot, for now! Not a step, but if we squint, maybe the baby moved! Now I rally am going to make muffins! I am addicted to this place!
dry_heat, Please, tell your son "I thank him from the bottom of my heart for servicing". Without him, my life would really be H****. None of us would be free in the USA. son is in my prayers If wish may send to me PM, his address and I'll send him a card or note every now and then to be sure he has mail when he comes in from duty. I send cards to other people serving in far away places. grid, lost
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
dry_heat, Please, tell your son "I thank him from the bottom of my heart for servicing". Without him, my life would really be H****. None of us would be free in the USA. son is in my prayers If wish may send to me PM, his address and I'll send him a card or note every now and then to be sure he has mail when he comes in from duty. I send cards to other people serving in far away places. grid, lost [/quote] I will make sure he gets the good wishes and thanks from you, and the others who have expressed them! It should make him feel good. There are still people that see him in uniform, and go into the "baby killer" thing. Knowing him, it is sooooo ridiculous!
Once I have an address, I'll get it to you!
Thanks to everyone who has expressed this, I really appreciate it!
W hardly slept last night, so she was tired today, and a bit cranky. But she finished giving the family room a good cleaning, and rearranging. So I complimented that. She did say thank you, so I guess it was a good one? Not a perfect one, but ok. Last night we talked a bit about her job, and how her inexperience is driving her crazy. I think I managed to validate, and understand. So that was good. A long way from meaningful, but good.
Hey Jeff! Having a lovely Sunday so far- thankyou! Hope yours is lovely too!
I think that the tidying compliment must have been a great one, because W thanked you for it- that seems like an improvement on what was happening after previous compliments. (She ignored one earlier in the week, right?) I agree with T- baby steps/scoots.
I also agree that although the conversation around W's job and inexperience may not seem meaningful it's great that W shares her insecurity. Lots of women build walls around their insecurities, so she trusts you enough to discuss hers. Validating her sounds like a good approach to that, and coupled to the consistent compliments I bet she's secretly thinking 'Whoa, something's different!'
What you're doing is working!
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
I might be misinterpreting from afar, but it could be more meaningful than you think.