I have een very specific ith him about what I need, yes. Probably haven't donethe 80/20% thing no, struggling to try it at the moment as we are rowing constantly and then he just goes into a childlike state of laying on the bed with his head in his hands saying he has nothing to say. I have told him exactly what I need to feel loved and asked him what he needs.. He doesn't see why he should do the things I need and all he needs apparently is things to be fair which actually means me not saying if I'm unhappy and letting him go out whenever he wants to and stay in bed for as long as he wants which was fine before but I'm 8 months pregnant now so am struggling to be up all hours with DS.
I see wht you saying about it beinggood I have identified my more of the same behaviour but I honestly have no control over it as it is hormone induced so it needs him to break the cycle by not reacting in the same way but he can't/won't. It prob sounds like an excuse from me but I have seriously tried to not be like it and I really can't, it is def hormones as I am not like it any other time. You're right, he doesn't know what to do to help sort the situation he keeps saying that. He won't read any books or look on internet for help thinks that is stupid. No continuing to just carry on hoping it will all get better on its own is stupid I have said (but not quite like that, in a nicer way) but nothing from him.
Why do you thnk it is a problem with my self esteem? Do you mean how I can't let go of what OW has written in the letter to him???
I'm 3 weeks off giving birth now and just feel like there is no excitement about any of it as we are in such a bad place and cannot seem to get out.
