"Do you have any questions?"

For real? That's the best she could come up with?

How about, "I'm sorry for screwing with your life."

How about, "I'm sorry that this has to be all about me."

How about, "I love you more than you can ever know and NONE of this mess between your Dad and me is about you in ANY way."


How about anything quite frankly that shows that the important part of that conversation was making it CLEAR to your young daughter that she is LOVED, VALUE, CHERISHED, and most importantly NOT RESPONSIBLE for any of the crap between the two of you??

Good God have mercy...


Lost. Utterly lost.


Frank, you go find your daughter again. YOU tell her those things, because THOSE are the things she NEEDS to hear, and right now. And later. And over and over again as long as this madness continues. It's not her fault, it's not D17's fault, you love them more than life itself and would do absolutely anything for them, forever and always.


You can't help a person who is lost and refuses to ask for directions. You can do NOTHING for your wife at this point. She has given in to helplessness and packaged it as empowerment. The delusion is now complete, and the only way to shatter it now is to apply her facade to the reality of life.

I'm pretty sure that you don't want yourself or your daughter to be too close by when the [censored] hits the fans.


YOU on the other hand sound pretty stable and that's a good thing. You sound at peace from an acceptance and reality standpoint, and that's good. You're seeing clearly and it sounds like you know what you have to do to continue working your way back to the solid Frank that we know you are.


Take care of those girls.


Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 03/01/08 05:25 PM.
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