Everyone, as always, is saying the same thing...de-invest from the emotional vacuum of saving something broken right now and RE-INVEST in yourself. The Bank of Frank_d has high interest rates and you won't go wrong putting your valuable time in there. Be the great guy you've been...remember what allowed you to be happy in the past....and get off the XXX train and check out the sights. Leave your W to her own agenda and, as Jeff once said to me, sit back and observe the workings of a lost woman and add it to your armamentarium of understanding the opposite sex
Yes, I totally agree. Investing in myself is the best thing I can do because I have to be there for my daughters.
This morning when D12 came downstairs at 8 am W came to me and told me 'we need to talk to her this morning'.
D12 sat down, told us of her plans for going to hang out with her friends today and what rides she'd need.
Then W pauses for a minute and says "You probably have seen that mom and dad haven't been hanging around much lately. That's because we're separating our lives. In a few months we're going to have separate households and Dad will be here while I get my own place where 'we' can also live."
D12 was quiet and then just said "Uh huh."
She got up and walked away to go to her room. W called after her "Do you have any questions?" and D12 just said "No".
W and I sat there for a minute or two, I thought about saying something to her, something like "It's too bad for our kids that you can't be responsible for your family, your husband or your marriage".
But, I said nothing.
I got up and went to D12's room and she was reading a book. I sat on her bed with her and told her I was sorry, and that we'd be all right. She said she was ok. I gave her a hug and told her I love her.
W just went for a walk. No doubt to get strength to do what she knows she 'has to do'. It sucks to be her. Can't make her marriage work, has to leave her husband who will never 'love her deeply', has to find her 'path in life'. Never mind taking responsibility for her husband and family staying together.
But that's ok because her friends know how much SHE has suffered. Well now she's free. I'm thinking about telling W to go sleep in the guest room from now on. Just don't want her around me.
