A day late and a dollar short, that should be my motto at this point.
Here is my point of view on all of this. I have said time and time again that marriage problems are not cookie cutter. People inherately have different personalities and respond to different approaches.
I can tell you that the soft approach would not have worked for me. However I know several posters who it does work for. The reality is that we have to have the freedom to express ourselves in whatever manner we feel appropriate and if that is against the DB philosophy, then show me in text where it says that.
My problem with moderators banning people is that they do not back up the philosophy of "if you don't want someone to post to you then ask them not to".
BWORL is a character, that is for sure, however if Bill is not told or asked not to post to someone then he has every right to keep posting in his own style. I suggest that the moderators go back and read some of BWOLR's posts. I have. His philosophy completely supports the DB techniques, it also is straight forward and no BS. He tells it like it is and I do not see why that is a problem.
AmyC is a bitch, big deal. That "Bitch" has helped me through some very tough times in my situation and if she hadn't been a bitch about it, I would still be struggling and stuck in the same dark place that I was.
I do not for the life of me understand why the moderators do not get this. Success or failure is not measured by one's ability to pussy foot around and candy coat life. I have a suggestion, post a thread in Piecing and ask those folks how many of them have been helped by the straight forward posting of AmyC, Bworl, FA, OSU, 1210, FrankD...etc...etc....etc.....
I bet you those folks in piecing would be the first to tell you that the folks that were brutally honest with them helped them through some very rough times and helped them understand the flat out ways to DB.
What I believe is this, DBing does work, but not the same for every situation. You have to allow the system to operate without putting restraints and threatening tactics in place to have it the way "you want it" not Michelle, you.
I believe that they call that philosphy Communism when put into affect in real world situations. I would like to believe that the DB boards are a democracy and that we can embrace the melting pot of styles that exist rather than sitting in judgment of them.
I for one would hate to see the folks that have been banned and have left because of this whole situation not be here for their valuable input that HAS helped many many people to become better DBers.
