I agree...keep that post in PM'S or singularly. We know about it..it's old...and if you paste it all over the place, it comes off wrong or as a cure all.

Frank..you sound better to me. It takes time and give yourself a little slack....you 'took longer' to get here because you were on a detour of sorts. Time will help you and I know you have the patience of Job. The pain is what makes the outstart 'unfun'. It IS true that it gets better. You just have to pace yourself so you don't get emotional burnout.

Everyone, as always, is saying the same thing...de-invest from the emotional vacuum of saving something broken right now and RE-INVEST in yourself. The Bank of Frank_d has high interest rates and you won't go wrong putting your valuable time in there. Be the great guy you've been...remember what allowed you to be happy in the past....and get off the XXX train and check out the sights. Leave your W to her own agenda and, as Jeff once said to me, sit back and observe the workings of a lost woman and add it to your armamentarium of understanding the opposite sex.

Strength and honor.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;