"avoidant personality disorder" - new one on me. Sounds like wifey. She avoided working on stuff in the marriage, and now she is avoiding the consequences of her decision to file divorce papers. sheesh.
interesting - I was in therapy and working on the "Expression of anger" stuff. Based on counseling, I attempted to articulate my anger instead of demonstrate it.
I sat with W and told her how angry I was. She did not believe me. She said, "you're kidding, right?" I guess I had earned that. After years of being more demonstrative with my anger (raising my voice, but not slamming doors), she didn't believe me when I just talked it through.
Not really a big lesson, just sharing it.
G- on him leaving the house. I think it may be a good thing or a bad thing. You can still DB when he is out. In fact it may even help. I'm not just blowing smoke. The physical distance may allow some tension to ease. But you've got to be patient and not wait angrily for him, because if you are angry, he won't be able to come back. you'll want to leave the door open for him.
I know this is a hard time for you.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
