My H is just doing his "thing". he has been in town all week but no one knows where he is or where he has been staying. He works and then does...we have no idea?
He contacted my youngest daughter by text and wants to see her this weekend. She said ok. He told her he would have her back for church on Sunday. My youngest does not know for sure of his affair but I know she suspects.
He has been trying to contact my middle daughter by text and phone calls. She ignores him.( now remember my H WAS an amazing dad, very involved in every part of their lives). She finally answered his call last night (outa guilt she told me) and he wants to take her to dinner. She said he was insistant and woudlnt take "no" for an answer. She finally agreed but is asking her new guy friend to go along as she doesnt wanna spend time with her dad alone. Sigh.She knows of his affair and is disgusted.
My H doesnt try to contact my oldest at school. She too knows and is soo upset and full of hate towards him ( again..they were apples of each others eyes)
My question is this #1 why do I feel so angry/jealous/upset? Its like if he calls the girls once every week or 10 days ( thats the pattern) he thnks hes doing fine and is being a good ole dad. #2 is it a good thing he calls girls..even if it is only every 7-10 days? The way I see it is...hes just trying to convince himself "yea I talk to my girls..now onto MY life" He has nothing to do with me. No calls no texts. Nadda. Again..Im sitting back giving him his space, I do not contact him. Ask him questions. Nothing.
I have no idea how he can even look at his girls knowing what he is doing and the lie hes living? I sooo wanna just forbid him from seeing he girls as he's sleeping with someone who is not their mother. Yuck. This is EVERYTHING he has taught them is wrong and now hes doing it?
Advice please? Help with me feelings?
M 44 H 44 M 22 yrs D 20 D 16 D 13 Bomb 1 8/25/07 Bomb 2 9/30/07 Left 10/01/07 OW..yup
Me? I'm scrambling to save my family. My H is just scrambling.
