The reason I'm hung up on this subject of forgiveness is when my W had her first A 2 1/2 years ago I thought I had forgiven her, but when I read through the many definitions of forgiveness I realise that I hadn't actually done so. So although some of the hurts bitterness etc had faded, a lot of my subsequent actions were governed by what she had previously done. So that's why I'm asking the question, so I can get some better guidance this time round. I could say loads more on this point but that is the bottom line.
Now that I think about it, forgiveness is just one part of the whole healing process so I'm gonna try not to make it the main sticking point to moving forward.
Hey Kalni
W saying ILY was probably a big step forward for her on the journey she's taking, remember just a few weeks ago she was calling me a "Waste of space". I couldn't respond to her ILY cos my poor little brain was trying to compute this.
ILY, "Waste of space" ILY, "Waste of space" ILY, "Waste of space" ILY, "Waste of space" ILY, "Waste of space"
Which one is it really ?
All I could say was enjoy yourself while this thought was still rattling round in my head
