no book suggestions, no forgiveness explanations. BUT (ha!), I was talking to my T last night and I told her that I was wondering what to do when let's say my H comes back. What should I do? Should I have a long lasting explanatory convo about the past, leave it to that and proceed? She asked me why would I need to talk about the past in terms of facts etc. She said she believes a couple after a crisis should move on. She said, "you need to forgive and eventually forget the volume and the pain of the feelings you had. I asked her (thinking of you, honestly) HOW do you do that?........ She said "it's your thing, you should figure out how (smart a$$), but I'll help you with this : if you don't, you will be divorced in less than a year." She didn't want to talk about it more beacuse I AM NOWHERE near piecing yet but I thought I would tell you this.
It does sound as a blackmail but I think for me personnaly, she is right... The funny part is I am already past this stage. I have forgiven him I feel, but I wonder if it all comes back once you are actualy together. If the focus now is somewhere else and then goes back to feelings...
Let's hope I'll find out.
Kalni
I am facing a dillemma in my sitch whether to "deadline him" or not? I would love to hear what you think about it.
