Thanks everyone, I'll try and remember all of your advice, another night of no sleep for me, so I'll be lurking around here for a while so I don't have to think about those adulterers. Did I spell that right?

M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.