Steelers Fan - Husband Making Progress Part III

[MidwesternGirl]

I can really say that these men are not happy at all.

I always thought this was what H wanted, esp. in the beginning but then we thought, well, he should be happy when he comes over and he never was.

He has just started opening up to me in the last few weeks.

Now most people would day, "So if he is miserable and wants to be with his family at home, then why does he stay at OW's?" I always say that they have to be ready to make the move. They know that is what they want but they have to do it when they are ready not when we think they are ready.

I have found it amazing what an MLCer thinks. Like he told me this affair and her were not what he thought it would be, that he realized he never loved her and only loved me, said he believes our marriage would be better then before....

And you know what else--I hate to say it but he is drinking again. And he stays up very late. I think he stays up late on purpose so he does not have to sleep with her and he feels so bad about everything that he is drowning in his sorrows.

So yeah, he has admitted how horrible this was/is, what damage he has created, and where his true feelings lie.

I find it all very comforting. I know God will guide him back home and I think once he comes home, he will stay because he is re-establishing his personal relationship with God and we've discussed that along with what the Bible says about such matters.