Unfortunately I think his image of ME is that I am a manipulating bit** who won't let go so he can marry OW. Not exactly the sort of thoughts that generally bring someone home.
Actually, do not help him with the D. He wants to tell everyone that you want the D too. Nope. My goal was to be the nicest person you ever thought you wanted to divorce. I did not stand in the way, but H filed, and I did nothing to prevent the process, or slow it down. He did that all on his own. He may be secretly grateful that the D is not going fast, to give him time. OW is pressuring M, and he really is not so sure he wants that. He is complaining about the D taking too long, but actually, I think it suits him. Watch how long he drags his feet.
Remember the watch his actions, not his words? Believe only 1/2 of his actions, and none of his words.
I have spent time listening to SF before and after the latest developments with her H. I think she can vouch for the fact that you do not know what they are thinking. You think they must be staying in a situation that you believe is making him happy, and then you hear the truth. They stay is these situations, talk about how great they are, and really, they don't know why.
They are scared, and wounded and confused.
Please always believe that about those in MLC.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
