Thanks W2G and Kalni (or is it Blondie now) for stopping by; please continue to do so or I may just give up this fight. I appreciate the empathy and intuition that comes so naturally to you women whereas I tend to be so slow on the uptake.
No new interaction with W after my last call to her 2 days ago which I kept positive (apparently doesn't mean anything other than "limbo"). Emotionally I'm still stuck in a valley on the roller coaster ride. For me the ride feels like a bottomless pit - I wonder if there'll be a ride like this at DisneyLand some day to really scare people who want to get married?
What do we have in common besides the kids? I don't really know at this point. We hail from the same town, culture and religion. But in nature and values we seem to be mostly polar opposites and we play mostly traditional H/W roles: I'm introverted, she's extroverted; I do the finances she does the shopping; I'm a saver she's a spender; I mow the lawn, fix stuff around the house, she cooks; I'm cautious and logical she jumps to conclusions; I'm neat she's untidy; I'm very honest and diligent she takes shortcuts; I'm more serious she's more fun loving; sexually I can match her any day but I'm shy going about it; the list goes on. Earlier I felt we were attracted to each other like magnates more as a result of the differences than the similarities and I know couples like this who get along very well and live more complete lives rather than if they married someone just like them. But once kids arrive or other stressful events occur then incompatibility grows whether there are lots of similarities or not. So Kalni, there you have it.
