I am glad to see things are going well. I got a bit fearful after the mini-bomb last summer.
I thought you did change jobs after you finished school. Often you have to b/c some companies still treat you the same even though school makes you more valuable. 18 years is a long time but if you are having fun, then years do not matter.
Keep going. You and Jenny and SD (I hope so, but she was down for a bit and no new thread yet - hint) are my success stories. Even in success you demonstrate that any R means work and commitment and that is a valuable lesson to learn and to watch.
Just a little journaling - it's been a while since I posted.
Life in the Sex Starved Marriage department is going slowly, but I am remembering Time and Patience, just like I keep telling all the newbs.
W and I finally ML this weekend. W was not very enthusiastic, which in the old days would have sent me into a funk. I kept up my PMA, though, and she eventually came around. Things ended unexpectedly, but we kept our sense of humor about it and it was OK. Let's just say, when the bottle of "warming" massage lotion says "OK for use on intimate areas"... don't you believe it!!!
Just finished listening to the audio book of "Eat, Pray, Love", which I know several people around here have read. I had a real love/hate relationship with it. I enjoyed the author's journey of self discovery - but the early sections, describing her descent into MLC Craziness and abandonment of her H, were pretty hard to take. I just wanted to slap her - hey, lady, don't you know what you did to that poor guy dropping the bomb on him? And now you can't figure out why he is angry and can't just forgive you and end it as friends? Hmmmph. Stoopid aliens.
W and I are back to swing dancing. Finally found a good group - mostly 20- and 30-somethings, but they really are working to build a local "dance community" and typically have at least a couple events going a week, in addition to the lessons. Gotta keep practicing, I still have two left feet!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Not sure if you rememeber me but you really helped me out last year and i want to say thanks again. I'm doing really well. Things are still difficult at times but for the most part i am doing really well. I have been seeing a someone for 2 months now and she is an incredible woman. I have a very strong sense my best years are ahead of me with her. I learned a lot about relationships and what makes them work since exzilla left. The best part of it is that knowledge helped me build a relationship with this new woman. She knew what she wanted in a relationship and so did i. We talked lots about love and what that ment to us and we found we both had the same goals and believed in the same was to achieve those goals.
Anyway, doing well and wanted to say Hi and thanks. Take care, Brian
Yes, absolutly Rob. I'm a big believer in the things written by Gottman, Harley and Chapman. This new woman and i have had a couple of small bumps and sticking to the principles we learned from those books we sailed through those bumps with no trouble at all.
I can see you are still here helping people along. You're a great guy Rob and you really make a difference in people's lives. I know your words pulled me through more than a few times. :-) Cheers, Brian
If you men want to know what women really want and need, go to this site and give them your email address and you will receive a free daily newsletter written by a man to men about women. It is great! Hope you will pass it along.
Also, Michelle's books are on Amazon and the used books start at 13 cents plus 3.99 S&H. All that I have bought that were used were in very good condition. Hope you will spread the word to anyone that can't pay regular price right now.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Thanks guys. For the record, I did not get any profits from the books at Amazon. I did not realize I wasn't suppose to say anything about buying used books, etc. But I think the webstie is okay to tell about. I'm still learning about this board.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Things ended unexpectedly, but we kept our sense of humor about it and it was OK. Let's just say, when the bottle of "warming" massage lotion says "OK for use on intimate areas"... don't you believe it!!! 
