Okay, so draft of letter is below. I've incorporated the format NikB suggested. But I'm not sure about the last part. I'm not sure how good DBing it would be to mention the future when he is convinced I am not a part of his, is deep into his A with OW, and has shown no signs of wanting to R. Thoughts???
H,
The things that have happened in the last eight months have opened my eyes to a lot of things and forced me to reassess my priorities. I apologize for not considering how my going back to school would affect you. You told me you felt unimportant in the past because of how much homework I had to do and the after-class activities I felt compelled to attend. I apologize for taking your support for granted. You told me in many ways that you felt unappreciated but it never got my attention until I realized I was losing you. I apologize for not listening to you when you tried to voice your concerns or doubts. I’m sorry that because I was so sure I was right, I tried to convince you I was right. I apologize for not complimenting you more. I have always though you are a wonderful, strong, sexy, smart, athletic, honest, honorable man. You are also a wonderful cook and amazed me with the DIY projects you would take on. I’m not sure I ever told you how amazed I was that you fixed the exhaust on your own car among other things. I am also grateful that you cleaned the bathroom regularly as that is a chore I despised. I guess it’s true that you don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone. Someday, I’d like the chance to build a new marriage with you. Now that I have realized how important you are to me, I see us having a great marriage filled with laughter and love.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2