Steelers Fan - Husband Making Progress Part III

[Treese]

My H & I come from Catholic families who used to go to church and now our children are in catholic schools....he doesn't go to church with us any longer but did go with us at Christmas..my priest about had a fit because he knows my story and my H went to communion.but priest couldn't say anything...I don't think my H even believes in God anymore...He has indicated in all this that we should rethink sending our kids to catholic schools cause it is costing too much..I told him what to do with that comment..my kids have gone to catholic schools all their lives and I am not about to pull them because H is having a crisis and has now decided he wants all his money...we sacraficed a lot to send them and I am glad I did...

SF; How long was your H with OW?

Treese

[MidwesternGirl]

Treese:

I will tell you that while H was in the anger stage (about one year) he accused us of being devil worshippers.

He does not remember saying that of course and I know it was the MLC.

He is a Christian and knows we still have our same beliefs.

H has been with OW since August 2004 but has been living with her since June 2006.

[Treese]

Thanks SF;

I thought the longer they stay with OW, the more likely it is that they stay with them, or end up with them....I hate this..

My H hasnt even mentioned God or church or satan...nothing...
and my H really isn't mean to me...yet...I personally thought he was in the withdraw stage but heck I dont' know and I really don't waste much time trying to figure that out...

I just want my H to come home.....


Treese

[new_attitude]

SF- I don't remember all of the details of your sitch, but has he tried to find an "in-between" place before he moves home? Maybe he can stay with friends or family for a bit? Does OW know what's going on with him?

[Holly06]

treese,

I do not think that the longer they stay with OW the better the chances of them staying together.
I think they all see the light, and want out of the relationship. Some will leave and some are too proud to admit they made a mistake. Some will leave to be on their own, and others will not leave until they have someone to go to.
Like their wife.


I think that is what happened to me.

[Cinderellaman]

treese,

I do not think that the longer they stay with OW the better the chances of them staying together.
I think they all see the light, and want out of the relationship. Some will leave and some are too proud to admit they made a mistake. Some will leave to be on their own, and others will not leave until they have someone to go to.
Like their wife.


I think that is what happened to me.

Beautiful Holy, just Beautiful ! Thanks for the HOPE and FAITH, you give us ....it is much needed in times like these !

[ACJ]

Some will leave to be on their own, and others will not leave until they have someone to go to.
Like their wife

Gee I can't wait for that to happen to my H

[Holly06]

ACJ,

it can happen. Do whatever you can to be in the 40%.

Be the best you can be.
Be kind to yourself.
Any opportunity to let your H see you as doing fine and not looking for him to come home.
Compliment him.
Appriciate him.
Support him, emotionally.
Trust him, (as a human being)

This will inspire him to live up to your immage of him.

I think THAT is what I did best.

[Holly06]

ACJ,

it can happen. Do whatever you can to be in the 40%.

Be the best you can be.
Be kind to yourself.
Any opportunity to let your H see you as doing fine and not looking for him to come home.
Compliment him.
Appriciate him.
Support him, emotionally.
Trust him, (as a human being)

This will inspire him to live up to your immage of him.

I think THAT is what I did best.

[Treese]

I think my H is going to be one of the ones who's afraid to admit he made a mistake...I think right now he is ashamed...which would be why he's not contacting D21...she is so angry...

I hope I'm doing all I can do...I just pray that someday he will want to return and get to know ME!!

Thanks Holly, I needed a positive today..

Treese