i agree Cookie

the tools we learned were invaluable

but

could that be because we were allowed to vent and laugh and cry an disagree without fear of being censored

without that threat too hanging over our heads

being able to post without worrying about
are we right
is this ok to say
can we do this

we were encouraged to grow
to be strong
to not be lemmings

to do something that went against what society says we should do...divorce

against something our family might have been telling us to do...divorce

our friends...divorce

we stood up
we gained the strength to say...this isn't what I want

and we were helped by being able to get our frustrations out here!!!

What happens now to all the poor newbies who need to be afriad that they are going against the grain and then lose this safety too?

There is no right answer
There is no one way

There are things to which the only solution is to grin and come here and cry

but we can't cry i guess as that is not solution journal material!!!!