Thanks for your inputs so far. You last post prompted many thoughts in my head which I was having difficulty trying to articulate but I've tried to keep it simple.
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
You seem to be creating an expectation that a certain type of discussion with your W will allow you to forgive her. If she says the right words, and with sincerity, than you can forgive her.
The answer to this is maybe yes maybe no. Probably yes cos based on what you just posted I haven't grasped the concept of forgiveness.
But if you disregard everything from my last post with the exception of this key point below, this is what I am trying to find the answer to.
Originally Posted By: Lanzo
I am saying HOW do I forgive, what is the actual act of forgiveness.
Because if I don't know what the act of forgiving is how will I know how to forgive or if I have it in me to forgive. That's what I'm trying to understand.
So if I can make it clear, I'm not hung up on the act of betrayal, the hurt, the pain etc, etc (so no need for breathing exercises) I'm hung up on finding a very simple, understandable, workable definition of forgiveness.
