Frank is not exploring other women..nor exploring possiblities. He is looking for cues...cues of normalcy. Frank is trying to revisit the man he was when he was strong and happy and with where he was in life...what he is doing...he is trying to reanalyze 'where he once was'. So..he is doing that with with old friends. He wants to know why he was happy then...and not now...CUES. Sometimes, talking with 'normal' people outside of your M can help you to see things that you can't when you are totally invested in this difficult time.

Oddly (hope I am not censored)...you come to a point where you really start to analayze whether you are in a healthy M or not...or clutching to hold onto 'the status quo' out of fear and desire for stability.

Frank is simply looking at the poker hand he is holding. It's not easy to decide on whether to ante up, call or fold. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;