Originally Posted By: neecy22
Is there any reason he can't grab a toothbrush and some clothes and be moved back in even if it takes a few weeks to get all his belongings over?

No particular reason for me. Suppose I should ask H?

Then again, I would feel like I'm pressuring him, and that's not something I want to do - guess that has something to do with my DBing instincts . I want to see him come back on his own, but also within my timeframe.

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If he wants to come back why does it need to take a long time? I understand he wanted to pay the rent, but that doesn't mean he needs to stay and get his money's worth.

Right, I even pointed that out to him. I said I didn't want to see him staying there until his time, moneywise, was up. H said it wouldn't happen like that. Again, he's said a lot of things and rarely done them.

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This concerns me a little, I would hope looking ill prepared would be the least of his worries if you decided to go through with the D he is claiming so adamantly not to want.

Exactly! I don't understand it either. I think he's afraid because he knows I'm going to be there with my ATTY while he is without representation himself. He's always expressed concern that I'm going to "ream him". That's so not true! Everything I've requested is well within CA D guidelines and totally reasonable, and he knows it. It's just that he feels it's all "unfair".

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Play both situations out which would be the larger regret? Not taking the chance and going through with the D and not knowing what would have happened if you did? or Not going through with the D and filing again a few months down the road because the risk didn't pan out?

That's the trouble for me. Right now, I can't see which would be worse. \:\(


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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell