This will likely be an extended process and you do need to step back from it sometimes to see the whole thing.
Show her you are at peace with this "time out" and that you are strong enough for her to lean on when she is ready. My guess is that is the person she remembers saying "yes" to. It is the person she will find her way back to so you need to be ready. She can not help you work on yourself while she is consumed with working on herself. Only so much energy to go around. Show her you are strong enough for the both of you, and patient enough to let her set the pace.
