Once the anger I had for my H subsided I think the harder thing to deal with was my disappointment in him. I expected him to have more insight and be a stronger person. I had always perceived him differently. I saw him more as a guy who doesn't even notice other women. Kind of like a handsome nerd who would never even look.... this was the very last thing I expected from him and probably the reason I was attracted to him in the first place. And to have this image I admired destroyed, that was difficult.
WOW that is exactly how I felt for my H. He was always my safe place to land and now that is destroyed. I guess I never should of held him on a pedistal (quietly as he thinks I made him feel worthless)....times like this are humbling for sure and I agree that this is my opportunity to focus on me and if I am able to save my M while doing this....well that's a plus
M 37 H 37 Married 2yrs (together 7yrs) Son 4yrs old and H has Daughter 11 yrs old H involved with OW since Jan 08 and still seeing OW Still under same roof, but H spending more time with OW as time goes on
