You want to just 'act as if' we can actually express ourselves without fear of our posts being deleted or worse, that they will ban us. That's not a "solution", that's sticking our heads up our butts.
No, thanks.
Been there, done that.
I prefer the in your face approach instead.
What are you talking about, Amy? I've never noticed that at all!
Ask the posters here who had a problem with your posts and ask the Moderator if you were banned because someone complained or was it because the Moderator had an issue with what you were posting.
On SSM, they did. The moderator never responded to them, either on the thread or via e-mail, with anything more specific than "espousing anti-DB principles". They wanted to censor people's speech, and tell them ahead of time what they could -- and coudn't -- say.
That is the point. Let's face it folks this is not altruism. MWD is a business. She sells books, tapes, sessions, etc. It is a product and a good one at that.
As a buyer, I searched the internet for help in my marriage. There are thousands of sites out there. All of them have products to sell and testimonials of users to back them up. Why did I pick this place to spend my time and money? Because this was one of the few sites that had LIVING, BREATHING, PROOF! Because of people like RCR and others (you know who you are) that used these products successfully and were WILLING TO TAKE THE TIME TO TALK TO ME IN PERSON, I bought the products. Without real live people that I can post to and talk to this is just another site like all the others. Without proof that I can confirm for myself, how do I know all those rave reviews are real?
From my point of view they should be paying RCR. People like her, who, AFTER her marriage was saved, came here and told others you can do it and this methods works is the very thing that keeps the rest of us coming and buying stuff. RCR is one big FREE advertising campaign for DB. Because of people like her, I have passed on this site and MWD's books to my friends and even my MC.
So to all the mods out there, if you want fans and buyers you need a way to prove that your product is better than all the others out there. The very fact that people put in time and effort to promote your site and methods is bonus you get from RCR and others for free. Without us and people like us you go out of business. So maybe its time to get real financially. You need success stories. You need people to stay after they save their marriages or you will never get new people. If all we have to read is stories of others not getting anywhere, people will give up. Get a grip. Work out your personal problem. Listen to your consumers.
That was in response to Jeanette's suggesting the 'act as if' approach, which didn't sound tongue in cheek as she has since expressed. What's your point?
Ask the posters here who had a problem with your posts and ask the Moderator if you were banned because someone complained or was it because the Moderator had an issue with what you were posting.
On SSM, they did. The moderator never responded to them, either on the thread or via e-mail, with anything more specific than "espousing anti-DB principles". They wanted to censor people's speech, and tell them ahead of time what they could -- and coudn't -- say.
Which the rules don't say a thing about. And I'm not convinced they were doing that anyway.
They were apparently asked by several of the SSM regulars to show what part of the Terms of Service they had violated. People were summarily BANNED, with NO warnings, and NO examples provided.
