If no one believes in a MLCer, I don't know how they'd ever get back. If no one stood for them while they were lost. Yes even though at the time they're "lost" they don't know it. You have a lot of power if you're a believer in the Word of God. It says that the "unbelieving spouse is sanctified (which means literally, "set apart and made holy") by the believing spouse".
You may not know my story but after I came out of MLC, I realized I'd been prepared in church during the year prior to it. I had been given every single tool I had to use to claw my way out, and then endure the guilt, regret and shame in the aftermath. I also came to know that someone had "prayed me out" and I asked God repeatedly over a period of a few months WHO prayed me out. I never got an answer until I got up in the middle of the night one night for a drink of water. I stood in the dark at my kitchen sink and saw plain as day, my husband on his knees at my side of the bed. Everything had been changed around by then but when I saw it, everything was exactly as it had been previously. I am a believer that the spouse that finds themselves here has a role to play in the salvation of his/her spouse. The Bible says so. It is YOU - if you believe - that sets your spouse apart from all other "sinners". YOU and your FAITH that moves God. But too many can't see the forest for the trees because it simply hurts so bad and seems so hopeless. That's why you have to cling to the vine. If you've ever been a believer, go back. That's not only going to be the source of your peace at this time, but it's the only way to save your husband. The question then becomes how much do you love them? Can you love them with the heart of Christ? To do so, you have to first have it yourself.
There are many practical tools that you will be able to put to good use with varying degrees of success. The only foolproof way I know of to tear your family from the hands of the enemy is to lay it at the foot of the cross.
Be aware that when you do so, your journey probably will become longer. This is because when you put yourself in that gap on behalf of your spouse, God is first going to deal with you. When you have reached a place within yourself where you can truly look at yourself through the eyes of God and ask Him to change YOU, then you'll be getting somewhere. But only if you really, honestly seek the truth.
Thank you, MrsH.
Because of what you inspired me to write, I just might be able to find my own way back to the foot of cross one more time.
Maybe...
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
