All I can hold on to is myself, kids and this site

[SueS]

One point, he said something like 'i can do whatever I want when I have kids'.. which made me think :he can take my kids away from me, oversea, cross the country, with OW, new home whatever...

Hi Beauty.

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. H lost his job?? I understand your frustration.

I wanted to comment on your post from the other day. Make sure that you ask your lawyer about what your H can and can't do with your children & where he can take them. My H left us 3 years ago and was gone to his dad's for 2 weeks. We were in different states. I contacted a lawyer the second he left because he threatened to take our D with him. I don't believe that your H would be able to take your child anywhere but within your state without your permission. You have more rights than you think. When I contacted a lawyer back in December, she told me that after divorce, it's getting harder and harder to move a child to another state unless your spouse gives permission through the court. She asked me about that because we live in MN, but I'm from South Dakota & H is from Indiana. She wanted to make sure that I was clear that I'll have to retain my residence here.

I just want you to be clear about what rights you have. Just because he's their father doesn't mean he has rights to do whatever he wants and go whereever he wants.

Cover yourself, okay?

Take care-

SueS