That's about what happened in SSM. I guess we could keep that in our back pocket. I am hoping that there may be a change brewing. I think the sighting of a second mod may lead to something. Fingers crossed! (((((AmyC)))))
But even then....inside I still know the feeling of hopelessnes and no ones listening to what I have to say or how I feel. The frustration of not knowing is still there.
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Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
But even then....inside I still know the feeling of hopelessnes and no ones listening to what I have to say or how I feel. The frustration of not knowing is still there.
sigh
There we go! Now we are talking about solutions! Though I guess just deleting is a solution, too!
You want to just 'act as if' we can actually express ourselves without fear of our posts being deleted or worse, that they will ban us. That's not a "solution", that's sticking our heads up our butts.
I feel like I have been betrayed all over again. I have just lived through a year of hearing MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY. I come here, bought the book, bought the couching sessions in order to seek help and support. But now it seems unless I say and do the "right thing" (whatever that is) it is the boot. I thought the idea was to learn and grow in order to better myself and my marriage. To do that I must be able to make mistakes and learn from them. If I have to live in fear of losing the support I so need at this point, how can I freely express myself to learn and grow? The very practice of banning people to control what is said seems so cruel to those still here. It makes me less certain that this site is here to help people in an honest way.
The treat of banning now hangs over my head if I disagree or say something a mod doesn't like. If it was someone that was abusing the board, I could understand. But RCR of all people. She was a huge DB fan and success. She inspired people. I would think she is the kind of person that would be welcomed here as she is such and advocate for DBing. Her posts kept me coming.
And perhaps that is why she was banned? She was too good at helping people? Is this some pointless power play?
Just to let you know I have access to SOME absent friends and their other community. If you want any info my email is in my profile, (it REALLY IS Jeanette)
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I feel like I have been betrayed all over again. I have just lived through a year of hearing MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY. I come here, bought the book, bought the couching sessions in order to seek help and support. But now it seems unless I say and do the "right thing" (whatever that is) it is the boot. I thought the idea was to learn and grow in order to better myself and my marriage. To do that I must be able to make mistakes and learn from them. If I have to live in fear of losing the support I so need at this point, how can I freely express myself to learn and grow? The very practice of banning people to control what is said seems so cruel to those still here. It makes me less certain that this site is here to help people in an honest way.
The treat of banning now hangs over my head if I disagree or say something a mod doesn't like. If it was someone that was abusing the board, I could understand. But RCR of all people. She was a huge DB fan and success. She inspired people. I would think she is the kind of person that would be welcomed here as she is such and advocate for DBing. Her posts kept me coming.
And perhaps that is why she was banned? She was too good at helping people? Is this some pointless power play?
If they haven't banned me yet, you are safe.
So don't be afraid to stand up and fight if you think what they're doing is wrong.
Look at the SSM board, if you want to see your future. Tumbleweeds blowing thru there, averaging 1-2 posts per DAY since the "St. Valentine's Day Massacre" that the mods did over there.
I think it's about the coaching sessions revenue, guys. I'm no expert, but I've found that usually, if you just "follow the money," you can figure out where people are coming from. I think people were being helped -- for FREE -- too much, and they felt it was cutting into MWD's coaching revenue.
I'll quit calling you "sgfluffnstuff" and I'll get on board with the other changes but please stick the Resources back at the top of the page and let RCR back in with her profile and previous threads in tact.
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Oh no. Those are great, too. I don't care what you call me...I'm pretty tough
Now tell me, what the hell kind of a response was that???
