To sum things up, my feeling is that yes we both have flaws some are harder to live with than others. What I don’t understand is how I drove her to have absolutely no desire to be with me, and she despises me to touch her, and sometimes it seems she doesn’t even want to be in the same room as me. I understand she has deep issues with some of the things I do, but I am doing the exact same things I was when we met. I still spend time outside of our relationship doing the same things I’ve always done, usually involves time doing things with my son, and my motorsports hobby. So why would she have issues with this now, and not in the very beginning? Sometimes I question if we really know who we married, cause I know a certainly don’t anymore.
I have to agree with hairdog...professional counseling may not be the answer. We have been to 3 and none of them helped us in the long run.
Your thoughts are very negative, and I have to ask if these are your thoughts or has she actually said these things to you? My H often assumes negative things that aren't true. We've made efforts to try and sit down and talk more, but they always fall by the wayside due to our crazy logistics and relative illnesses.
Bottom line - it sounds like YOU want to work on and save the marriage. You need to find out if your W does.
