My story, please help

[GavinO]

I have spoken to my parents and they have said that it is not over and I should stop acting as if it is. If she really wanted it over then she would have left and stayed at her parents and just sent me solicitors (Lawyers) letters. They have pointed out that:

She still comes home

She tells me where she is going and when she will be back

She still talks to me

She still shows concern for me

She seems to have got somewhat over the angry stage

They say that I should listen to her and what she is saying, they also say that I need to accept (or pretend to)what she wants. They say that she wants the old Gavin back (I am a lesser man than I was say 2 years ago) and that I need to sort myself out and support her. They also say that there is still quite a bit of hope but if I remain the mess I am at the moment and remain the lesser Gavin then I will lose the chance. If I regain myself then there is a good chance.

They are saying that Clare (my wife) does not really want to give up someone who really loves her, the house we have, the friends we have and everything that we have done and could do together. Also that as I am willing and want to change for the better, it is more than most blokes will do. Why would she want to give that up?

Am I blind to the obvious?!? sorry I am a bloke and cr4p at communicating and listening as all blokes are and I am in a mess so can't see clearly.

I am confident that she does still love me and I of course love her, I realise that I love her much more than I ever thought I did.

Am I being silly and blind? Do I support her and hope she decides to stop (I can't make her stop of course)

Thanks for you help and support