Keep remembering all those good, happy times in your M and keep them close in your heart. Try not ot take those rewritten history things to heart. It hurts hearing them, but remember that your H is trying to figure out who he is and why he is hurting. You are there and so it is easy to blame the M.
I hear that most of them will figure most of it out and come through this on their own timeline. You can't help him, so let him go and figure it out and stay out of his way. Focus on you, your kids, and finding happiness that doesn't depend on him right now. That is the best you can do for him.
(((hugs)))
Nature Girl M 40 H 40 M 15, T 19 D11 S9 bomb 3/07 (MOW)