This was recently posted and removed without a deletion notice. What does that say? Tia, Thank You for you work to moderate. Though I have not reviewed your posts, I have not noticed or heard posters being upset with you specifically. But Your moderating partner has behaved unethically toward multiple posters and praises DB with such idolatry that she has made herself antiDB in her view that DB is the sole premise of these forums--such a view is anti doing what works since it is exclusionary and thus, ironically, antiDB. DB exists to help people with their relationships using Solution-Oritented strategies. Michele does not have a monopoly on Solution-Oriented strategies--as she herself has made clear through her copious references in Divorcebusing.
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I do not know why RCR was banned. ...If a member was banned, there was a valid reason.
You have defended her actions while admitting you are ignorant of her motivations. Educate yourself before defending blindly.
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I am so grateful to Michele, Virginia, and their crew. Their heart is in the right place. Can we thank them, instead of being angry?
People are not angry with Michele or Virginia. They are thankful and grateful for the books and this website. The posters have made it very clear to whom they direct their anger--which is highly justified. Instead of asking them to stop being angry, review their reasons for anger. Their are enough voices to consider they may have something valid and thus warrant a review.
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When I went through my separtion, Michele was my "shelter in the storm". I adore her for placing marriages first, and providing this "sounding board" for us.
And yet the other moderator has removed the "sounding board" by censoring posters.
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Please respect our leader.
If you are speaking of Michele, she is respected. But since she does not post to us, she is not the direct leader on the forums. She is at the top of the pyramid. At this point, she seems to have appointed a power hungry moderator to lead her forums. The lack of respect is for that person, not Michele. The posters have made that blatantly obvious.
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Thanks for voicing your opinions.
These words are only valid if you fill them with action. Please only thank posters if you intend to do something about their concerns.
