GavinO, I don't think she really means all of those words. She is trying to get away from the pain of everything she has experience and she doesn't know what to change or how to make it stop hurting, so she is chosing to live a different lifestyle and to leave her M. Of course, she is jumping out of the skillet into the fire, but she will have to find this out the hard way. That is what concerns me about her mental health. I really wish she would get into counseling just for herself.

As far as what you can do.....well, of course you can't apply any pressure by begging her to stay or showing any weakness in front of her. You may just have to let her go and hope that soon she will see her mistake and want to return. If you think she is valuable enough to do this and you think you will want her back, then set her free. Work on yourself to be the best you can be, so when she sees you, she will like what she sees and hopefully want the man she married back again.

Good luck and God bless. I hope all works out positive for you.
Keep coming here for advice and encouragement.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!