I don't think I know anyone here anymore. It's been several months since my last post but I thought it was time to stop in and just say that this CAN be done. My story is long and VERY well detailed on these boards. If you care to look me up (do a search for grasshopper or totallymessedup or just click the "current thread" link at the bottom on this post for a list of all my past threads) you'll see that my wife had an affair, continued to have an affair while I found resources like this one and through my re-learning how to live and love, my marriage was 100% saved and now, as cliche as it sounds, we are better than ever!
I just want everyone here who is mired deep in what seems like an unworkable situation to realize that I was there too. I spent a long time there. I logged over 3000 posts on this board working through my issues and in the end, the unbelievable happend... we made it through.
Is my marriage 100% free from suspicion? No. Has there been times when the OP popped back into our consciousness? Yep. Have things been all good since we reconciled? Not at all but they are light years ahead of where they were pre-affair.
If anything is learned through this process, and while I have not spent any time recently reading threads I assume people still talk about this here, it's that you need to change your life for good, for you, and things will be better.
I am not too terribly sure how much I will be around but I may check back in if anyone has questions.
GH
P.S. If for some ungodly reason there are still some of the old crew around from my days here, check in!
