I have read your post in response to me talking about forgiveness, however I was wondering if you've misunderstood what my quest for knowledge on forgiveness is all about.
I am not saying WHY should I forgive W because of what she has done to me. I am saying HOW do I forgive, what is the actual act of forgiveness.
I think we both know that I have to forgive and let go of any hostility resentment etc., I have to give myself that gift of forgiveness. How does it work ? Do I just tell myself W is forgiven and carry on with life?.
Too be honest I think W needs to know that she has been forgiven because she thinks her acts have been so unspeakable (and she won't speak about them) that she has said to me that she doesn't think that I will ever be able to forgive her. So on that point we will need to talk, and if we do talk I know it should not, will not, be about me putting her under the spotlight and trying to extract a confession out of her in order for her to be forgiven. But the talks have to come to a resolution that rids me of this feeling that I have that W should never criticize me ever again cos she is the one who fu*ked up our M.
So Forrest if I understand the possible out comes to the future using your analogy
If I just forgive and move on this may happen
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
You are sitting next to your wife. Your Son/Daughter Is walking down the aisle. Pick a aisle. You are so happy. Your excitement can't be hidden. You talk about old times. What has happened in your "life".
If I pester W for answers and eventually forgive this may happen
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
You are sitting next to your new wife/girlfriend. Your Son/Daughter Is walking down the aisle. See above. You are so happy. Your excitement can't be hidden. You talk about old times. What has happened in your "life".
Remember I'm asking HOW to forgive not WHY should I forgive.
