Michelle - I think the letter is a good idea, and it's good to take some overall responsibility for the past, but I wouldn't overdo it either. Instead I think it's better if you focus on the future.

i.e... I apologize for __________, you told me you felt ______ in the past because of ________.

Someday I'd like the chance to build a new M with you. Now that _________ has happened, I see us having a great M filled with _____________.

OK a lot of blanks to fill in.. \:\) but do you see what I mean?

If you dwell TOO much on the past it'll reinforce why he left, but it's important to acknowledge it to validate his feelings. What do you think?

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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