I agree. I know I have to move on somehow. My only option is a letter. But what do I say to her?? 3 months ago, I was going way out of my way to buy the love of my life Christmas gifts (and I went way overboard too b/c I wanted to show her how much I cared for her even though we were apart), now I'm not going to talk to her again. I'm frustrated that somehow she has this talent of turning things around. She's scared and thats why she wants the NC order. Yet I was the one with the bite marks and bruises. She was the drunk one, she was the abusive one, not me. Do I regret many things in the marriage, yes...but infidelity and abuse were two things I did not do.