Cat, First of all.. shut it... you're not going anywhere. You're staying right here.
Now, as for your H, whether he meant those things or not, you are at a place where you're ready to move on. You are at a new phase in your own process. You want out. I know that feeling. I've been there myself... Where I felt completely confident and strong without H.
You do what is best for you and your kids. Your H can rewrite history if he wants. You have taken accountability for your "mistakes" in the M. Has he?
Just because you're moving towards D doesn't mean you have to leave this board. You have formed relationships here and we all know your sitch. Please don't leave because you feel you're a poor example of piecing.
Please continue to lean on us.
As for the things your H said, he is probably trying to justify in his own head why he continues to behave badly. Just let him spew and ignore it (try).
We love you. You know that.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
