he yelled how he never wanted to get married and knew it was a mistake.
Please don't let this one get to you. I think we have all heard it, or at least most of us. As my C always reminds me, they must devalue you in order to justify their fantasy.
When XH told me he wanted D, I had no money either so instead of waiting for him to file and paying thousands in L bills by getting my own L, we agreed that I would file (because I live in an area that had cheaper L and court fees) and he would just sign the papers. Therefore, he never had true representation and we just split all of the fees. Some people don't agree with it because I actually filed when I didn't want to, but I felt I did not have a choice with the way my money sitch was. He agreed to pay me more than he would have to in child support if we stayed in the house for D11's sake. I felt if I didn't get this in writing somehwere, somehow he would eventually back down from it...and the bottom line is that the best sitch for D11 is to stay in this house, a stable environment with her friends, family and school close by.
You have to do what is the best for you and your sitch.
