Hi everyone, I have a thread (several!) over on MLC becuase my partner of 9 years walked out pretty suddenly (it was about 2 months from when he first spoke up to when he ended it but he refused to discuss it in this time, just IDLYA). He was very very guilt ridden, couldnt explain, couldnt look me in the eye, all that stuff. I cried and wailed and begged for 2 months every time I saw him or spoke up until Christmas where we had a very awkward meetng where he said he hated himself for hurting me and literally couldnt speak to me. So he didnt, for a month.
He then moved into a flat 26 Jan and had to come get some stuff. Gradually we have been more in contact, it started with a few text messages, then the odd email, a couple of visits to see me (!). We are now up to multiple contact a day - 6 emails today ! BUT, nothing has been said that is R related or emotional, since 22 December and then it was all coming from me! In his communications with me now, its all just friendly and neutral topics.
My question is...is this how reconciliation starts out? Its driving me mad that he IS contacting me so much yet acting as though we are just friends. He wont tell me where he lives still. He never asks what I have been up to. He does ask questions though, just not personal ones. In all of your experiences, should I be encouraged by this bland, friendly banter, is this how it started for you before you got to piecing??
Thanks so much for taking the time to read my sitch, if you do ! THe latest one is a bit drama laden and angsty as I have been reaching the end of my rope this week and letting the not knowing get to me. latest today
