I have noticed that a lot of my shirts are L (wife bought them) and I used to wear an M before I married. I am now in pretty good shape. I should go through my wardrobe and get rid of the stuff that looks like I am wearing a bag. That would be quite the 180 to get more fashionable.
Funny, I went through the same thing. Lost about 15 lbs after the bomb was dropped, so I had to buy some new clothes (but I am far from fashionable). Then I started going to the gym more regularly and now the new clothes don't fit quite right. It feels nice to be fit again. And I know it was one of the things W noticed as a sign I was coming out of my funk.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
I saw W briefly last night before I took the kids to the fire station (cub scouts activity). I reminded her that this Sat was the first "Kids Turn" class of which 4 classes are required in our county to get a divorce when children are involved. She had forgotten all about the class which is typical for her to forget appointments since becoming a WAW. I mentioned that it might be that we dont even need these classes and she replied that we should still take them regardless of whether we get a D or not since we already pre-payed for them.
The classes have 2 simultaneous sessions so that spouses who cant get along are not in the same room. I am kind of hoping that there are some arguments between couples in the class as it might make W realize that her and I are actually pretty good together in comparison to others going through a D. Also, the kids have classes they take so as to understand what divorce is and how to cope with it.
Our mediator agreed with me that the classes are a waste of time for W and myself as we already have the best interest of our children worked out well between us.
I will be scoping out some of the soon to be single women in the class if my D comes to fruition. Just kidding. I am going in with an open mind and maybe I can learn something from the interactions of other couples.
Ha, don't let the WAW catch you! Glad to hear you guys are getting along well. So are me and my WAW. Not the ideal situation, but none of these are.
Keep up the positive work. And find someone that knows fashion before you go buy a lot of stuff. I am doing that myself. I only have t-shirts and jeans.
Ken Me: 37 Her: 38 Son: 8 (spina bifida) Son:2 M 6/24/1994 S 1/21/2008 Original Sitch
W called when I was driving home last night to tell me that S7 really liked a new Picachu stuffed doll she got him off ebay. At the end of the call she said "thank you" to which I had to say "what for" and then I quickly said "no, thank you" in a funny way. She laughed. I wonder why my W says thank you like that at the end when she talks to me.
On a sad note, I had to put my cats (Donny and Marie - yes they are brother and sister) back out in the garage and close the cat door. The friendly cat Donny, who is fixed, was spraying too much and squating a urinating on the carpet. The kids were really liking having the cats in the house to play with (and torment Marie). W knows that I had to put the cats back in the garage, so that may give her one more incentive to come back. If she does not come back, then when these cats (15 years old now) are gone, I will probably get new kittens and train them properly to live in the house without urinating everywhere.
The thank you is a nice touch. It sounds as if you guys are getting along pretty good overall. Keep doing good man. I have been thinking of your sitch.
Keep doing good for the kids and cats as well. Mine is a 16 year old. He stays outside mainly at the house. I miss him dearly as he would not take to apartment life.
Ken Me: 37 Her: 38 Son: 8 (spina bifida) Son:2 M 6/24/1994 S 1/21/2008 Original Sitch
So today is my W's birthday. I got her a simple card, a balloon and a $25 Starbucks gift card.
I picked up D5 and another girl like usual from school today and as I was pulling into the driveway of their afterschool teacher, D5 blurts out that OM bought mommy a really pretty new car. Somehow I think their R is quite a bit further than I suspected. The afterschool teacher heard this repeated and will probably mention it to my W later this afternoon which means my W will know that I know.
I called W's friend immediately to ask her what I should do. Should I ask W about the new car? We both agree to let W tell us. She felt so sorry for me.
Well, I figure that there is a silver lining to all bad news - if he did buy her a new car, that is some pretty good evidence for me to use in showing that she does not deserve any spousal support if the D proceeds. Also, it means my W will be pretty close to making a decision about whether she wants a D or a chance again in our M.
Tonight we are all (not OM) going to an Egyptian performance for S7's school. I need to get my mind off of this new development.
Good luck tonight Kerry. I know it's going to be tough to not bring up OM's gift.. but you can do this.. Let her sweat it out.. 'cause I would think that something like that should be tough to tell you!
One possibility I was thinking about... since my W seemed to be on the fence, maybe OM detected she might be considering coming back to our M and got her the car out of desperation to win her over. My W may look at this as pursuing too much on his part. Who knows, this may backfire on him.
My coworker thinks my W is stringing me along too much and is having her cake and eating it too.
