[quote=runningoutoftime] this was the very last thing I expected from him and probably the reason I was attracted to him in the first place. And to have this image I admired destroyed, that was difficult.
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it made me feel like I didn't even know him.
I know this feeling exactly, I felt like I knew my husband better than myself. And 2 things I knew were, he is shyer than the the day is long around woman(I think I still make him nervous sometimes) and he does not like expressing his emotions. Well the limited emails that I saw had flirting and I love yous. I know I already got my hand slapped for dogging the ow but my inner psycologist thinks he flirted with her because she is so entirely unattractive that he was not nervous and then ended up geting caught up in all the attention with her flirting back.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
[quote=klm][quote=runningoutoftime] my inner psycologist thinks he flirted with her because she is so entirely unattractive that he was not nervous and then ended up geting caught up in all the attention with her flirting back.
I wouldn't be surprised if that happened in my H's case. He told me he never meant it to happen, it just did. I believe that. OW was a married, unattractive co-worker with kids and he probably felt she was a safe person to become friends with and then when she flirted with him and etc. I guess they both got too involved more than they should have. I know she made several flattering statements to him about how he is always talking himself down and telling him how wonderful he was and at the time I thought that was weird. Looking back I realize I should have had realized she was probably infatuated with H or whatever you want to call it...Karen
Ditto to both of you. OW is not terribly attractive and is a bit of a flirt and easy because she wants attention and has "discovered" that sex is an "easy" way to get it.
My H was way out of her league at one point and she probably told him a billion times how wonderful he was. I guess flattery does get you everything.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
ok ow spent a lot of time telling me how wonderful I am the day I pounded on her door for 20 min. She told me how beautiful I am and how H talks about how smart I am and she kept telling me I was amazing more than once during the convo she said she had no idea why he did what he did with her but maybe it was pity. I can imagine if she can butter me up and she was the person I held reponsible for destroying my perfect life how easy it would be to butter up my h.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
That's what H said, she was probably afraid of you, I said she is more than twice my weight, he said so you are scary who goes banging down someone's door?
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Lol. With me, OW is scared of me I think even though I've never physically threatened her. However, she is 3 inches shorter than me and I've got about 20-30 lbs on her (she's sooooo skinny she has no figure whatsoever, no boobs, no butt, she kinda loooks 12 to me but the height is probably part of that too).
It's a good thing I can laugh at myself, because if I couldn't laugh about this whole situation I probably would have killed somebody by now - whether myself, my H, OW, or just random passers-by lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
