Short,

I guess we are supposed to act as if.....

Act as if what??

Our lives are turned upside down over night.

Our Spouse spews insane things and accuses us of trying to ruin their lives.

There are hundreds of things they do, and I want to know how a LBS is supposed to respond?

It doesn't matter if you are texting, talking on the phone, or if there is a full moon shining outside.

If you change the way you usually communicate and talk in the garage instead of the bedroom.

If you eat your way through tons of cheese as you look for even more cheeseless tunnels to run through.

Detach, attach.

Go dark.

Shine bright.

None of this will help you to understand MLC, because the rules are so different.

Each case is different.

Keep trying something new until you are exasperated and still haven't had a damned babystep.

Take up yoga, join the gym, pray, learn to play the harmonica, speak Japanese and journal.

Nothing changes.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.